Self-Consciousness: The Downside to Caring Too Much and How to Fix it

Do you ever feel like you’re on a stage and the entire world is watching you? Do you always feel the constant need to fix yourself in the mirror if someone stares at you for too long? Are you afraid that if you do or say something “wrong” you’ll be scrutinized for it? This is the feeling of self-consciousness. You spend so much time focused on how you look and what you do because you essentially fear what others may think or do. Though everyone has likely felt this way a time or two in their lives, if it’s a constant feeling that you respond to, it can ruin your ability to live a happy and fulfilled life.

Signs You’re Too Self-Conscious

There’s nothing wrong with being a little self-conscious, in fact, it’s actually healthy for you. When it has reached unhealthy levels you might notice some of the following responses:

  • Getting angry when you’re embarrassed
  • Steering clear of social environments
  • Blaming anyone but yourself when something is wrong
  • Low self-esteem
  • Anxiety, depression, or nervousness

Maybe you feel like you’re overweight and people are judging you for it. Perhaps you suffer from excessive sweating and fear people will laugh at your Pit Stains during the meeting. It could also be a deep-rooted experience from childhood where you were bullied a lot and have carried that with you into adulthood. Whatever the reasons you may be feeling so self-conscious, it is imperative that you start making healthy changes for a brighter future.

Consequences of Being Too Self-Conscious

Caring too much about the opinions of others and doubting yourself on a regular basis can ruin your life. Here’s a look at what happens when you’re overly conscious:

  • You lose your self-confidence
  • You become a people-pleaser
  • You become overly emotional to opinions
  • You start to look at everything pessimistically
  • You don’t trust anyone
  • You’re always alone
  • You lose valuable relationships
  • You can become depressed

Here’s How You Turn Things Around

You don’t want any of those consequences to manifest in your life. And if they already have, you know how much damage it’s causing. You can do something about it, however.

Exercise – if you’re concerned about your weight or simply don’t feel good internally exercising can improve this. Start developing a routine to shed those pounds and boost your energy. Exercising also has mood-boosting benefits which can help for those suffering from anxiety or depression.

Eat better – if you want to feel better about yourself you have to start from the inside out. What you eat will essentially show up on the outside. If you’re eating a lot of greasy foods, for example, you’re going to have a few extra pounds and potential skin problems. Stay hydrated with lots of water and eat meals that contain protein, fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and dairy.

Think positive – you are your own worst critic and until you change that you’ll forever be self-conscious. Every time your brain tries to think negatively, take a timeout, a few deep breaths, and replace the thought with something positive about yourself. You might also try meditation every day. It is a practice that has been known to help people release negative energies and thoughts and feel renewed.

Stay off social media – as much as you may love checking in to see what all the gossip is about, you need to take a break from social media. Sometimes the pressures of posting and waiting for positive responses can make you overly self-conscious.

Focus on others (in a different way) – instead of trying to figure out what people are thinking about you, just focus on others in a more positive light. Try to help those less fortunate to you. Build a deeper connection with friends and family instead of remaining only on the surface.

Everyone to some extent cares about what people think of them. However, when it reaches a point that you’re so obsessed with your self-image that you have lost all confidence in yourself, it’s really unhealthy. Making changes won’t be easy, but as you start to treat your body right, change your train of thought, and focus on others on a deeper level, you’ll find that you’re not so bad after all.