A wise person once suggested that there is never a right time to have a baby. A child is a real gift and a blessing, but it is also a life event that brings about major changes. And nobody is ever ready for all that being a parent entails, there is a lot of learning that must happen on the job. But having said that there is also a lot of groundwork that can be laid in advance and a lot of elements that can be planned for and controlled in advance. If you are thinking about becoming a parent in the near future, here are a few things to consider.
First up it is worth stressing that adoption is an option. If menopause is racing towards you or you don’t have a partner, or you can’t afford treatment then there is always adoption as a consideration. If, however you want your own child then time does need to be taken into account. Ideally most people will want to wait to have a baby with a life partner, but if that is not panning out as hoped then there are other options. A quick online search for a phrase like ‘fertility clinic Melbourne’ is a good place to start. These are the kind of places that will be able to provide you with a solution like IVF or artificial insemination. They will be able to find donors and manage the whole process of falling pregnant from a clinical perspective. And it is important to recognise that there are facilities like this which can help, and which can go a long way to taking the pressure off solving things yourself.
Children are expensive and it is important that you are aware of this. But also know that no matter how wealthy you are you will always want to have more for your children. The reality is that while money needs to be a consideration it should be far down the list. If you want to be able to provide your child with everything that he or she is going to want, then you are probably never going to be able to afford a child. Do your best and know that ultimately a child that receives love will be better adjusted and happier than a child who receives money.
It sounds like a simple thing to say but when planning to have a child you should start thinking about names as early as possible. For some the naming process is an easy one, but for most it is a tricky process, fraught with awkward combinations of initials, weird memories and differences of opinion between the parents. So, get the names debate out into the open early.
Plan for the birth and make sure that everyone knows the plan. Do you want a water birth or a home birth or a C-section or a natural birth at a hospital? Who will be there? For how long are you prepared to push? There are lots of factors to consider and you need to think it all through long before it happens. Consult with friends and family who have been there before, work through the details with your partner and instruct the doctors and midwives on what you want.