Why Confidence Trumps Beauty

The concept of beauty is undefined; it varies among cultures and societies and even through the decades. However, the way you carry yourself will arguably always affect how others perceive you.

As the saying goes, if you look good, you feel good. But the reverse is also true as confidence and inner beauty do show on the outside. Confidence is thought to be one of the most attractive qualities and can be even more intoxicating than physical beauty alone. Together, it’s a tough combination to beat.


Confidence is about self-respect and self-understanding. How you perceive yourself will ultimately affect how others see you.

Recognising the power of the positive, an increasing number of people are turning to cosmetic procedures to enhance appearance and boost confidence — whether this be a minor tweak or a major procedure. Advances in technology have revolutionised the field of cosmetic surgery and made it part of mainstream medicine. It’s no longer reserved for the rich and famous, but now available to anyone who wants to utilise it. Dr Terrence Scamp offers various plastic surgery procedures including; breast, abdominoplasty and rhinoplasty.

Additionally, in the past 20 years or so, advancements in the cosmetic and aesthetic industry have created a highly popular, less permanent breed of cosmetic enhancement for those of us who aren’t ready to go ‘under the knife’. Non-surgical alternatives to facial rejuvenation are being requested more and more, so much so that they are becoming regular treatments for many women and men, alongside facials and other mainstream beauty treatments.


Understanding the ‘why’ behind your decision to undergo cosmetic enhancement is a critical step towards receiving the results you are looking for. Melbourne body image researcher and clinician Roberta Honigman says talking to someone about your motivations will help both pinpoint your reasons for seeking cosmetic enhancement and manage your expectations of the results.

“You’re actually helping yourself by understanding what it is you are seeking and why, as that’s the key to happiness in this field,” Honigman says.

One of the most disconcerting experiences of ageing is the disconnect that occurs between feeling young and vibrant on the inside and the physical effects of getting older on the outside. As a result, one of the most common motives for undergoing facial rejuvenation is the desire to bridge this divide by minimising the signs of ageing.

This kind of motive can cause people to lose sight of their inner self, and to define themselves according to their appearance

In line with this attitude is the tendency for some young people to express their perfectionism through cosmetic enhancement procedures, particularly through non-surgical enhancements. This kind of motive can cause both young and older people to lose sight of their inner self, and to define themselves according to their appearance.

“People have to be prepared to take responsibility for their bodies and their lives. That’s why they must understand the motivation driving them to seek a change before they do anything,” Honigman says. “Starting out with realistic expectations of what is possible is the key to being happy with the result.”


Beauty alone is no guarantee of happiness. Leslie Zebrowith, Professor of Psychology at the Brandies University, conducted a personality test on a number of men and women and found that beautiful people with ugly personality traits looked less and less attractive with the passage of time. Through her research, she concluded that women who were gregarious and vivacious in their teens, looked more beautiful to men even in their 50s — more than their aloof, unfriendly but more beautiful peers.

What the study encapsulates is the notion that being attractive might make you happy, but being happy means you make yourself more attractive.

The physical beauty of a woman is only a small portion of her overall beauty, and this portion wanes. Internal beauty includes manners, behaviour, intelligence, sense of humour, compassion and family or personal values, which are essential and lasting personality traits.

Get Happy

Professor Timothy Sharp of The Happiness Institute tells us how positivity and happiness can help us lose weight.

Most diets propose that if you lose weight, then you’ll be happy, The Happiness Diet suggests that if you get happy first, then you’ll lose weight. It’s all about putting positivity first; creating the motivation and energy to do what you need to do and achieve your goals.

So how do you get happier for a brighter, slimmer, less stressed life? Here are some tips to harness the power of positivity for inspiration and change.

Imagine a positive vision of the future — one in which you’re living a great, fulfilling, active and flourishing life

  • Imagine you at your best living this great life
  • Start living this life now by planning positive and inspiring activities right now
  • Also, plan activities that require a degree of effort and mastery
  • Be mindful of what you say to yourself — try to develop a more optimistic thinking style
  • Build confidence by trying new activities
  • Focus more on strengths and stop trying to fix weaknesses
  • Find ways to think positively about healthy eating and activity
  • Build positive and supportive relationships by enlisting the support of family and friends
  • Create positivity by practising appreciation and gratitudeb