Do you have additional support when it comes to parenting your child? Or are you trying to do this all alone? While many people do have the support of their spouse or significant other, what about outside of that? Do you have help from your neighbors or other family members? You’ve probably heard that “it takes a village” to raise a child.
This is certainly true, as having that additional parenting support can make a huge difference in your child’s life. If you want to raise a healthy, well-balanced kid, then you need to have the right kind of help. Here are six important benefits that work in your and your child’s favor.
1) You’ll be Less Stressed Out
It could be said that a stressed parent is an ineffective one. If you get so stressed out that you can’t think straight, then you clearly aren’t able to effectively parent your child. You’ll need to take a step back now and then to calm down and relax before you can get back to parenting. If you’re the only parent in the picture, then who’s there to step in? The answer here is – no one. Alone, your stress levels will skyrocket. You need someone to have your back in the form of parenting support.
2) You’ll Feel More Confident
Good parenting relies on confidence. You need to feel confident in your skills, even when you doubt yourself. This is where parenting support comes into play. You need to have someone in your corner explaining to you that you’re doing the right thing. These people are also useful when it comes to advice, but we’ll cover that in a few minutes. Basically, if you have people who you know have your back, you’ll be more confident and your children will be parented more competently.
3) Your Child Will Have Plenty of Social Interactions
The more social interactions your child has, the better they will be at speaking to people of various ages and genders. Even those who are shy and introverted will understand people better, even if they don’t outright speak to strangers while with you in the store. Every time your support system pops up, they provide another learning opportunity for your child and another important social interaction. Kids who are extremely sheltered stay in their self-made “boxes” for life. They don’t go outside of them. Don’t shelter your child. Instead, let your support team step in and teach them new things.
4) Learning Opportunities Are Everywhere
This is something that will benefit your children. For example, how many hobbies do you have? You might like to garden, so you can teach your children about the many benefits of the garden, and how to do these tasks properly. But what about carpentry? If you can’t do that, but one of your trusted neighbors (and source of parenting support) can then allow your child to spend some time over there. They’ll learn something cool and new, and will have expanded their social network. This is a very good thing. The more support you have, the more your children will learn. After all, variety is the “spice of life” as they say.
5) You’ll receive plenty of Advice
When you first have your child, you may not want anyone else’s advice. It can be tough to deal with a parent who steps in, tells you when you should feed your baby, and then point out that you’re putting the diapers on wrong. You want to tell them to go away. However, what happens when you actually want advice? If you’re scaring off the other adults early on, there won’t be anyone who can help you when you need it. Instead, seek out other parents who can support you through those tough moments and give you some advice based on their own life experiences. You’ll feel much more confident about your actions.
6) They’ll help you Solve Problems
This is similar to the advice that you seek out from your parenting support group, but with one crucial difference – they will help you come up with the solutions to various problems. If your kid is getting bullied at school, what should you do? The answer is that you ask for help from your supporters. They’ll give you some good suggestions as to how you should approach the school and the individuals involved. No matter the scenario, you’ll have a batch of people who can help you through it. The problem might be monetary, in which case you might be able to get help providing food for your kid. The issue could consist of a problem that you’re having with a fellow parent. Even if this isn’t something that the other parents have dealt with, they will still help you develop good solutions.
This guest post is a contribution of Sam Knight on behalf of Pathways of Pella, a sought after non-profit Women’s Clinic in Pella, Iowa offering alternatives to abortion, contraception, free STD testing, counseling, and more.